Valuing the family

Over the past few years, I’ve really changed my opinion on the value of family. As a high schooler and then a young adult, I was pretty strongly persuaded that getting a graduate education and establishing myself in a successful career needed to come first. Family was something that should come later on, once I had achieved many other accomplishments. Particularly as a woman, I felt that I needed to be in a hurry to get all of the really important things taken care of before I had children because once I did, life as I knew it, as I dreamed it would be, would in effect be over.

I’ve given some thought to how much society and our culture has influenced my views on family. It’s troubling now to recognize lies I have believed because they sounded reasonable. My focus was so wholly on myself and not at all on the things of God. So, it has been a slow process for me to reconsider what really matters in eternity. Job status, money, and worldly ‘success’ will fade. Investing in family, whether that is my own or in other families or largely, the church family, has a value that is not fleeting.

Prioritization: Step 1 Assessment

One of the challenges of adult life is the amount and variety of responsibilities that we take on. Home life and work life impact us and shape us in significant ways that affect what we have left to offer in our “free time.” Home life for you might consist of living in a dorm, an apartment, or a house. You could be living alone, with peers, with parents, or with your spouse and children.

  • What efforts do you put into your home life? Chores, meal preparation, hospitality, entertainment, spiritual growth…
  • What is your workplace like? What hours do you work? What sort of effort and skill is required of you each day?

Take some time to assess what you are doing in these two spaces of your life and identify how these places influence who you have become.